How to Take Your First Step into BDSM

I don’t know if it’s just me, but BDSM seems to be everywhere these days. (Yay!) BDSM stands for Bondage and discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS) Sadism and Masochism (SM), and it sums up a wide spectrum of activity, from gentle bondage through eroticized (and consensual) torture.

It makes sense that BDSM is so popular online. For one thing, many people start with fantasy long before they venture into acting it out, and the interactive enviroment lets you engage with another person and see how you like it without literally being flogged or punished.

Another thing is that BDSM is very theatrical, very visual. It gives erotic designers an opportunity to challenge their skills, building sets and implements and costumes and environments in 3D worlds for themselves and for others.

Learning The Ropes

One friend of mine got his first-aid certification as part of his journey into more extreme BDSM practices. Another took two workshops in rope bondage before trying it on his partner in a private setting. Please invest the time and research into learning to play safely. Not every escort or partner in an online community knows what they’re doing. but when you take it into physical space you can actually place yourself in physical danger if you don’t know what you’re doing. There are places on the body it is dangerous to flog, there are dangerous ways to bind people, and there are chanced for accidents, like starting fires or causing internal injury. Playing it safe (heh) is fun, will enhance your experience, and could save your life.

To do BDSM right, you need to follow some basic safety guidelines; these not only pertain to your physical health, but to your emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being as well.

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3 responses to “How to Take Your First Step into BDSM

  1. Pingback: Interesting posts, weekend of Halloween 2k9 « Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction

  2. sexiersexlessons

    Yes it’s an excerpt from the book – but the book isn’t a BDSM manual either so if you are looking for that, here are some recommendations from my personal library:

    Carrie’s Story, by Molly Weatherford (novel)

    Screw the Roses, Bring Me the Thorns (how-to, and I forget the authors’ names at the moment)

    Enjoy!

  3. Several of my hypnosis recordings are designed to introduce women to lite or mild bdsm. Hypnotically Seduced, A Tango in Subspace, and Obedient Desire all D/s elements geared towards beginners. Check them out at http://www.hypnoticdreams.com/recordings.

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